Would You Forgive A Cheating Gf?

[Guest]

I don't believe in monogamy, it's a trap. Having sex with someone else is no big deal.

If you're both upfront about it with each other and anyone else you might hook up with then it's not cheating, so do whatever you want. If not then you're still an asshole.

I don't think you have to tell everything to your partner. We are allowed to keep secrets.

Not if in her mind you're exclusive but you see it as an open relationship, wtf?! Even apart from the violation of trust, she has a right to know for the sake of her health in terms of potential STD exposure.

Nah, you don't own anyone.

You fucking sociopath, you have an ethical obligation to be honest about the type of relationship you want to have with someone, so that she has informed consent in deciding whether or not she wants to be with you on those terms. There are other non-monogamous people out there, why can't you seek them out instead of lying by omission to an intimate partner?

Nope

DA are trolling, and you are not very good at it either. Clown

I smelled a lil p---- male troll is the one you are arguing with.

[Guest]

I don't believe in monogamy, it's a trap. Having sex with someone else is no big deal.

If you're both upfront about it with each other and anyone else you might hook up with then it's not cheating, so do whatever you want. If not then you're still an asshole.

I don't think you have to tell everything to your partner. We are allowed to keep secrets.

Not if in her mind you're exclusive but you see it as an open relationship, wtf?! Even apart from the violation of trust, she has a right to know for the sake of her health in terms of potential STD exposure.

Nah, you don't own anyone.

You fucking sociopath, you have an ethical obligation to be honest about the type of relationship you want to have with someone, so that she has informed consent in deciding whether or not she wants to be with you on those terms. There are other non-monogamous people out there, why can't you seek them out instead of lying by omission to an intimate partner?

Nope

DA are trolling, and you are not very good at it either. Clown

Of course, everyone who has an opinion you disagree with is a troll.

You keep recycling shit you've been saying for years on here. There's no shock value in your comments, it's been said and done a trillion times before. Truth be told you're just an incel who couldn't catch a fly let alone one woman. You try hard don't you, tryhard

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[Guest]

No. Once a cheater, always a cheater. There's no coming back from cheating.

[Guest]

Binngggggoooo! An incel with a teenie ittyyyy bittyyy p---- who can't get up.

Telling someone they have a small p---- on a lesbian board seems like a waste of time

[Guest]

No, If someone has that little respect for me they don't love me.

[Guest]

No, If someone has that little respect for me they don't love me.

Exactly

[Guest]

No, If someone has that little respect for me they don't love me.

Exactly

Love isn't black and white and people aren't saints.

[Guest]

Any time I cheated I felt genuinely bad about it after and it always made me appreciate the person I cheated on more. So yeah I would forgive someone cheating. Not like every other weekend but I could give them a free pass once.

Any time? How many times you cheated?

[Guest]

No, If someone has that little respect for me they don't love me.

Exactly

Love isn't black and white and people aren't saints.

Da. Not cheating isn't being a saint. It's doing the bare minimum.

[Guest]

No, If someone has that little respect for me they don't love me.

Exactly

Love isn't black and white and people aren't saints.

So you've cheated because you have the utmost respect and love for your partner? Right.....

[Guest]

I don't know. I haven't ever cheated or been cheated on. My friend went through a situation that kind of made me see it from a different perspective. Not saying it's okay though. But I think in certain, specific situations it's possible to work through it as partners, if both are willing to.

[Guest]

No. On top of wiping out any trust between us, it'll be a clear sign that she's lost interest in me. Time to cut ties.

[Guest]

NO. Someone being a cheat is a sign that they are a narcissist.

[Guest]

Exactly

Love isn't black and white and people aren't saints.

So you've cheated because you have the utmost respect and love for your partner? Right.....

I love how somebody tells you that things don't only come in extremes and your comeback answer is oh you've cheated because you have THE UTMOST LOVE AND RESPECT

[Guest]

Maybe if I'd tried really hard. Depends on the circumstances.

[Guest]

I doubt I would forgive them.
If they had tried to communicate and work things out with me first then the blame would be partly mine and forgiveness would be possible. If they were just being selfish, sneaky and unfaithful then bye.

[Guest]

I might forgive but I may not be able to trust her again, so I’ll probably just end the relationship.

[guest]

Why are were these really old threads revived and other threads like the IWTSS thread killed off. Seriously mods get your act together

[Guest]

Why exactly would you forgive. That's the real question to ask.

[guest]

Why exactly would you forgive. That's the real question to ask.

From experience, if she is cheating and you forgive her? she's then relieved she fooled you. You stay and forgive her is like giving her a lifetime free pass to everything. Cheating breaks respect and trust, she doesn't respect you to do that and your trust is gone forever.

[Guest]

I wonder how you can care about someone who cheated on you enough to care about forgiving them.

[Guest]

Beware of geminis and pisceans, they cheat a lot

[Guest]

Why exactly would you forgive. That's the real question to ask.

From experience, if she is cheating and you forgive her? she's then relieved she fooled you. You stay and forgive her is like giving her a lifetime free pass to everything. Cheating breaks respect and trust, she doesn't respect you to do that and your trust is gone forever.

Exactly. It's all about respect.

[guest]

I wonder how you can care about someone who cheated on you enough to care about forgiving them.

It's usually a co dependant relationship, more times than not a cheater has a personality disorder and for the non cheater it wears thin eventually. It's a toxic relationship.

[Guesr]

Why exactly would you forgive. That's the real question to ask.

From experience, if she is cheating and you forgive her? she's then relieved she fooled you. You stay and forgive her is like giving her a lifetime free pass to everything. Cheating breaks respect and trust, she doesn't respect you to do that and your trust is gone forever.

Exactly. It's all about respect.

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[Guest]

I wonder how you can care about someone who cheated on you enough to care about forgiving them.

It's usually a co dependant relationship, more times than not a cheater has a personality disorder and for the non cheater it wears thin eventually. It's a toxic relationship.

Why personality disorder? Maybe they are just mean or bad people you know.

[guest]

I wonder how you can care about someone who cheated on you enough to care about forgiving them.

It's usually a co dependant relationship, more times than not a cheater has a personality disorder and for the non cheater it wears thin eventually. It's a toxic relationship.

Why personality disorder? Maybe they are just mean or bad people you know.

Because people with PD (which is a broad spectrum of disorders) are prone to cheating, it's part of their illness. Note I did say more times than not, meaning a great amount do have a PD, those who don't are still a person who acts dishonestly in order to gain an advantage. someone with issues.

[Guest]

It's usually a co dependant relationship, more times than not a cheater has a personality disorder and for the non cheater it wears thin eventually. It's a toxic relationship.

Why personality disorder? Maybe they are just mean or bad people you know.

Because people with PD (which is a broad spectrum of disorders) are prone to cheating, it's part of their illness. Note I did say more times than not, meaning a great amount do have a PD, those who don't are still a person who acts dishonestly in order to gain an advantage. someone with issues.

OK. I didn't know about this. I genuinely thought people who cheated were simply bad people.

[guest]

Why personality disorder? Maybe they are just mean or bad people you know.

Because people with PD (which is a broad spectrum of disorders) are prone to cheating, it's part of their illness. Note I did say more times than not, meaning a great amount do have a PD, those who don't are still a person who acts dishonestly in order to gain an advantage. someone with issues.

OK. I didn't know about this. I genuinely thought people who cheated were simply bad people.

Where cheating is ongoing in a persons life then PD is usually the problem. A smaller and I underline smaller group of women, may cheat because they are feeling emotional disconnection from a partner, and feel unappreciated, lonely, and sad, in a long term relationship or marriage, but again this stems from issues, usually the cheater is insecure within themselves. These emotions sometimes lead to secondary feelings of anger and resentment. Another group are people who are opportunists and cheat to do so without any other motivators. It's complex, but where anyone can't be honest and finish a relationship before seeking out with others? the problems within them are highlighted in those different groups and for different reasons.

[Guest]

No one is immune to temptation. Some of them did not plan to cheat. But, you know after 15-20 years of being in a relationship with the same person, they get bored and they meet someone “exciting” and they’re not strong enough to fight it.

[guest]

No one is immune to temptation. Some of them did not plan to cheat. But, you know after 15-20 years of being in a relationship with the same person, they get bored and they meet someone “exciting” and they’re not strong enough to fight it.

Yes true, however the person is usually insecure within themselves, lacks the ability to communicate their needs in an honest way. If the relationship is done, nothing stops anyone from speaking out where they intend to be in life, blaming the other person is weak. We are all responsible for our own actions.

[Guest]

It could’ve started as something innocent. Then they would convince themselves that “She’s just so easy to talk to. We can talk about anything til 4am. But she’s really just a friend, there’s nothing bad going on.” They don’t even realize that they’ve started emotionally cheating.

[Guesty]

It could’ve started as something innocent. Then they would convince themselves that “She’s just so easy to talk to. We can talk about anything til 4am. But she’s really just a friend, there’s nothing bad going on.” They don’t even realize that they’ve started emotionally cheating.

Emotional cheating is destructive, Emotionally you've shared your soul. You confided things that only your “closest” friend should be privy to, your partner. It may have taken you YEARS to have learned things about your partner …and they handed it over on a silver platter in a matter of weeks to… someone else! Now, not only have they betrayed you, they've made you feel inadequate . By confiding their soul so easily to someone else they have in essence said “Not only is this person better than you so much that I CHOOSE to cheat on you with them, they are a better confidante” (Obviously! since they did it so easily!) “ You do not adequately fulfill my needs in ANY way”. Like being abused. If theres a choice between mental abuse, or physical abuse…I would rather be punched in the face than have my brain and heart manipulated. Physical abuse makes it easier to say, “ Your an Asshole, I deserve better” . You know where you stand if someone just hurts you physically. Mental breaks you down, fills you with self doubt, makes you feel like it's your fault. So punch me in the face, and go screw the brain's out of some other woman. I'll press charges for battery, and hope your clit FALLS OFF ! Just dont mess with my head.

[Guest]

lol, there is no such a thing as an "emotional cheating" just get over that your gf/wife sometimes may like to expend much of their times with their friends instead just orbiting around your insecure ass. you dont want that to happen? date a couch introvert bertha and you are good

[Guest]

No.

[Steampunk Kitty]

I was cheated on once. I forgave her. Then she did it again. I left her and moved out of state.

Lesson learned - if they cheat once, they will do it again. Therefore, I will end the relationship without hesitation.

Luckily, I haven’t been through it since. But it was a painful lesson to learn.

[Guest]

lol, there is no such a thing as an "emotional cheating" just get over that your gf/wife sometimes may like to expend much of their times with their friends instead just orbiting around your insecure ass. you dont want that to happen? date a couch introvert bertha and you are good

anon said there's no such thing as an emotional cheating. That means there is no such thing as an emotional cheating everyone.

[Guest]

No one is immune to temptation. Some of them did not plan to cheat. But, you know after 15-20 years of being in a relationship with the same person, they get bored and they meet someone “exciting” and they’re not strong enough to fight it.

I'm sorry but I would never cheat on my partner. That's not even questionable. It's not something crazy.

[Guest]

No. I'm not saying everyone who's ever cheated is irredeemably evil or anything, but I know that for all my faults I would never do it, and I expect the same in return. If she betrayed my trust like that then she isn't who I thought she was, and I'm not so afraid of being alone to compromise on this.

[Guest]

One time I got cheated on and when she told me, I went out the next day and cheated on her 3 times on the same night. Never told her about it and she carried the guilt of having cheated on me through the rest of our relationship.

[Dragonfish]

Beware of geminis and pisceans, they cheat a lot

Lol nonsense. I’m a pisces and I’ve never cheated. Not in my nature at all.

I would forgive, but not forget and as such would end the relationship. Been cheated on and I took her back and she did it again so wouldn’t do it again. As others have said; it completely destroys the trust.

[Guest]

I think I could forgive her giving certain circumstances, but I don’t think the relationship would survive it in the long run.
Also obviously she’d have to admit it and not me finding out.

Dealbreaker: Cheating after building an emotional relationship with the other woman (via texts, meet ups etc). Seriously, just break up before doing that.

“Forgivable”: (Spontaneous) hook up with a stranger.

[Guest]

No. Never.

[Guest]

Well I've had my fair share rather unfair share of this--

I forgave her like twice-- Then she fooled me again

How silly of me to be so gullible. Anyway I did love her like for real. I even thought she was going to be my forever in replacement of Icerabbit. However, some people I'm not saying all I guess are really just liars and cheaters. Unfortunately, I fell and got fooled by her.

So no and never again

Lesson learnt. I easily got over her though unlike what I'm feeling for my one and only Icerabbit Tragic and poignant

[Guest]

No. It’s definitely a dealbreaker. If I decided to forgive the person i’d turn into an annoying, insecure person who’s always suspicious and paranoid they’re gonna cheat on me again. I think once the trust is broken like that, they’ll do it to you again. don’t be a fool and take them back

[Dragonfish]

No. It’s definitely a dealbreaker. If I decided to forgive the person i’d turn into an annoying, insecure person who’s always suspicious and paranoid they’re gonna cheat on me again. I think once the trust is broken like that, they’ll do it to you again. don’t be a fool and take them back

I didn’t feel insecure when the girl that cheated on me did it, it turned me in to someone who didn’t care what she did and went pretty numb. When I walked away that was it. I genuinely felt absolutely nothing for her, not anger, not hate just nothingness and I never spoke to her again.

[Guest]

After begging for months and buying flowers and gifts, why not

[Guest]

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[Guest]

Never. Cheaters are garbage and I'm too old for this shit. You're either a decent person or you're not.

[Guest]

Would you date someone who cheated on their previous relationship?