it's natural to have boundaries, when i lived with roommates we discussed those boundaries at the beginning and it saved us a lot of trouble and misunderstanding in futureGuest wrote: ↑26 Jun 2021, 08:05Am I being an asshole if I don’t want people to touch/use my things even though we live together? It goes from food I buy for myself, cleaning supplies, my personal shower supplies, etc to the point that I hide it so it isn’t touched. Do I have a warped sense of boundaries or do they?
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There is a thread called Pride 2021.WhyO wrote: ↑26 Jun 2021, 16:12Could someone link me articles (or other media) about "why" straight people should come to our prides? Why do we let them attend it? Is it about support? Because many of them are still homophobic and just go there to have fun like if it's a random party... Is there a thread here where this discussions already happen? Feel free to how me the way Thank you
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Is there a thread about the tv show "the girlfriend experience?"
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Is working as a barista as draining as it appears to be? I've done it ocassionally at a friend's bar, and just now considering it as a job.
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QMTA: she still likes me!Guest wrote: ↑19 Jun 2021, 02:21I'll see if I can go for it.Guest wrote: ↑12 Jun 2021, 01:23Well if you both thought there could have been something back then, why not? I think you're overthinking it.Guest wrote: ↑12 Jun 2021, 01:12Lol well now I am less busy (I graduated from grad school in December) and based on my social media stalking it seems like she started her new job in January which has a much shorter commute time for her. So that's why I have time now to post things every so often, and likewise for her. She doesn't post everyday and neither do I.Guest wrote: ↑12 Jun 2021, 01:08I fail to see the creepy part in any of this.Guest wrote: ↑12 Jun 2021, 01:03This woman and I talked for about 6 months last fall, and we went on 3 dates (we both had really crazy schedules at the time). We stopped seeing each other because it was hard to communicate and hang out because we were both so busy (in other words, there was no bad blood. The last date we went on she actually brought me roses).
I still follow her on instagram, and she still follows me. We both watch each other's stories, and she has a new job closer to where she lives. I'm kind of debating on hitting her up or just commenting on one of her stories, but it's been since probably December that we last spoke. How desperate and creepy does this all sound? I've never had something with someone where it didn't end in some terrible way, so I'm not sure if this is overstepping bounds.
However, I also wonder how it is that you're both too busy to communicate but still have time to post stories on Instagram.
The whole "creepy" fear comes from the fact I dated a woman in the past that seriously creeped my out afterwards, so I guess I worry how it looks that me, a woman she hasn't talked to in 6 months, is randomly hitting her up out of the blue. The fact that it didn't end in a bad way is I guess why I am thinking of chatting with her again. I'm just not sure how it looks.
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Good for youGuest wrote: ↑27 Jun 2021, 20:20QMTA: she still likes me!Guest wrote: ↑19 Jun 2021, 02:21I'll see if I can go for it.Guest wrote: ↑12 Jun 2021, 01:23Well if you both thought there could have been something back then, why not? I think you're overthinking it.Guest wrote: ↑12 Jun 2021, 01:12Lol well now I am less busy (I graduated from grad school in December) and based on my social media stalking it seems like she started her new job in January which has a much shorter commute time for her. So that's why I have time now to post things every so often, and likewise for her. She doesn't post everyday and neither do I.Guest wrote: ↑12 Jun 2021, 01:08
I fail to see the creepy part in any of this.
However, I also wonder how it is that you're both too busy to communicate but still have time to post stories on Instagram.
The whole "creepy" fear comes from the fact I dated a woman in the past that seriously creeped my out afterwards, so I guess I worry how it looks that me, a woman she hasn't talked to in 6 months, is randomly hitting her up out of the blue. The fact that it didn't end in a bad way is I guess why I am thinking of chatting with her again. I'm just not sure how it looks.
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Is anyone else getting these errors today when browsing the forum without a VPN?
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Yep. You may also have noticed the board is slower to load generally lately. There's more traffic at peak times than it can handle comfortably.Guest wrote: ↑27 Jun 2021, 22:01Is anyone else getting these errors today when browsing the forum without a VPN?
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What is the name of the well known lesbian porn star who stars in strap on porn?
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x2Guest wrote: ↑27 Jun 2021, 22:01Is anyone else getting these errors today when browsing the forum without a VPN?
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Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
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lying about your genderGuest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 08:03Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
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How do you prevent from having a crush on a woman you talk to frequently?
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If you had to ask this, you probably already have a crush on her.Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 15:18How do you prevent from having a crush on a woman you talk to frequently?
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Age. You can get a job but obviously not change your age?Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 08:03Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
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IMO the latter, it may embarrassing to be the one unemployed between friends, family, or to a potential girlfriend, if you're like that a long time or often find yourself in such situation, you may think people think you're a lazyass or someone who mess up all the time in their jobs, also I guess no one with a shitty job likes to reveal it to others so it's understandable if they lie about it by being vague about it or say they've a better oneGuest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 08:03Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
as for lie about age I think it's a humorous thing most of the time among middle age and above people whether they think that's the age how they look like or their mental age, it's not something I see doing myself as I get older but I don't mind people who do it if that makes them feel younger and better about themselves, but of course if you start a relationship you should disclose your actual age even if you don't like to bring it up
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I mean lying about your age is kinda weird. How would you get around that? It's pretty serious. Like on your birth certificate and id serious. I dont know how I'd take someone seriously if they shaved like 5 years off their actual birth date. It's very strange.
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Hmmm both-- Eitherway you are still a liar and that's a deal breaker.Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 08:03Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
How can someone start a relationship with someone who can't even be truthful with her age or job
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What if it’s not to a person you want to date, but just to friends or people you meet? Which is worse lying about your age or having a job?Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 20:04Hmmm both-- Eitherway you are still a liar and that's a deal breaker.Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 08:03Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
How can someone start a relationship with someone who can't even be truthful with her age or job
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DA. Both are really bad. Why do you have to say your age or your job to someone who you want to be friends with or meet randomly? Don't say your age. As for your job, if you really need to, be vague. But never lie. It is just asking for trouble and an insincere relationship that is not built on mutual trust and respect.Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 20:20What if it’s not to a person you want to date, but just to friends or people you meet? Which is worse lying about your age or having a job?Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 20:04Hmmm both-- Eitherway you are still a liar and that's a deal breaker.Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 08:03Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
How can someone start a relationship with someone who can't even be truthful with her age or job
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Also, with modern life being what it is, and with covid times being what they are, there are a lot of people who are doing unconventioal things or whatever. Find people to be around who are understanding, not people who are judgmental.
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DAGuest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 21:52DA. Both are really bad. Why do you have to say your age or your job to someone who you want to be friends with or meet randomly? Don't say your age. As for your job, if you really need to, be vague. But never lie. It is just asking for trouble and an insincere relationship that is not built on mutual trust and respect.Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 20:20What if it’s not to a person you want to date, but just to friends or people you meet? Which is worse lying about your age or having a job?Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 20:04Hmmm both-- Eitherway you are still a liar and that's a deal breaker.Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 08:03Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
How can someone start a relationship with someone who can't even be truthful with her age or job
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Yep, any relationship may it be platonic or friendship if not romantic should start with trust. If you're inauthentic from the start even with these petty stuff what makes you think you'd still be genuine and trustworthy of bigger issues in the long run.
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Hi. Barista anon here. Nobody replied to my quesion but just came by to say that I'm gonna give it a chance. Wish me luck.
Bout the liars discussion going on, my two cents: I've had an ex lie to me about wanting one thing and then the next day act completely opposite to what she said the previous day. So stick to what people do rather than what they say. Always.
Bout the liars discussion going on, my two cents: I've had an ex lie to me about wanting one thing and then the next day act completely opposite to what she said the previous day. So stick to what people do rather than what they say. Always.
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How should I deal with antisocial introverts who refuse to speak to me? Ignoring them is not an option.
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I think it’s about as difficult as any other service job.Guest wrote: ↑29 Jun 2021, 00:47Hi. Barista anon here. Nobody replied to my quesion but just came by to say that I'm gonna give it a chance. Wish me luck.
Bout the liars discussion going on, my two cents: I've had an ex lie to me about wanting one thing and then the next day act completely opposite to what she said the previous day. So stick to what people do rather than what they say. Always.
Are you going to a place like Starbucks or a local cafe type?
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Sorry I didn't have an answer for you then, but absolutely, all the best anon!Guest wrote: ↑29 Jun 2021, 00:47Hi. Barista anon here. Nobody replied to my quesion but just came by to say that I'm gonna give it a chance. Wish me luck.
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Why do you think you will develop a crush? And how frequently do you talk to her? Do you work together?Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 15:18How do you prevent from having a crush on a woman you talk to frequently?
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How do I find something other than a one-sided relationship? Is there a trick? Someone who makes an effort to put themselves out there would be a great change.
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Once a person lied about her age(not in a joking manner), there’s a high chance that she would also lie about other things like her job.Guest wrote: ↑28 Jun 2021, 08:03Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
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Love yourself first and the rest will followGuest wrote: ↑29 Jun 2021, 04:51How do I find something other than a one-sided relationship? Is there a trick? Someone who makes an effort to put themselves out there would be a great change.
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Why don't we have an "Ugly cakes" thread like we used to in the old forum?
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Why don't you start one?Guest wrote: ↑29 Jun 2021, 12:33Why don't we have an "Ugly cakes" thread like we used to in the old forum?
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DA According to a study, 90 per cent of women more likely to fib about age. Kerri Parker, 35, is a model and stunt double, from Norwich, Norfolk. She says: “I started modelling at 20 after I gave up a career training to be a doctor in the army medical corp," explained Kerri.“I was lucky enough to be offered work in Los Angeles and spent five years working there. “Now I work as a model and a stunt double all over the world.“ I tell bosses I'm 22 to get the best jobs - I'm 35” Many castings call for girls 25-or-under and I am 35.“Why should I be aged out simply because my passport says I am 35? I can still pass for a twenty-something. “I don’t see why I shouldn’t be considered simply because I have ‘aged out’ of that grouping. “So, instead of having to beg for casting at 35 I simply tell casting directors I’m 22. If that lie gets me through the door I don’t mind -
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People lie on resumes, lying about job experience and age are often interchangeable, if you want to get picked for the position. Tough market.
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Well, she just exposed herself.Guest wrote: ↑29 Jun 2021, 13:24DA According to a study, 90 per cent of women more likely to fib about age. Kerri Parker, 35, is a model and stunt double, from Norwich, Norfolk. She says: “I started modelling at 20 after I gave up a career training to be a doctor in the army medical corp," explained Kerri.“I was lucky enough to be offered work in Los Angeles and spent five years working there. “Now I work as a model and a stunt double all over the world.“ I tell bosses I'm 22 to get the best jobs - I'm 35” Many castings call for girls 25-or-under and I am 35.“Why should I be aged out simply because my passport says I am 35? I can still pass for a twenty-something. “I don’t see why I shouldn’t be considered simply because I have ‘aged out’ of that grouping. “So, instead of having to beg for casting at 35 I simply tell casting directors I’m 22. If that lie gets me through the door I don’t mind -
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I do love myself. The relationships initially start off as reciprocal, but overtime the person makes less and less of an effort to the point they make absolutely none. I end up leaving them once that happens, if it can't be resolved with communication. Usually it's not because they promise to make more of an effort, but never actually do. What am I doing wrong here? They will make an effort in other areas of their life, just not for me.
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I actually had this happen to me too, a couple times. In my case I think it's because I keep crushing on emotionally unavailable women, or women who'd just come out of a ltr and aren't at the same stage as me. It's unfortunate and frustrating and definitely something that tells us more about ourselves than about the people we date. I think it's important to be assertive with them and with yourself, to be communicative even if the other person isn't, and try to find out what's their deal asap so that you don't find yourself with someone who doesn't want the same as you.Guest wrote: ↑29 Jun 2021, 15:32I do love myself. The relationships initially start off as reciprocal, but overtime the person makes less and less of an effort to the point they make absolutely none. I end up leaving them once that happens, if it can't be resolved with communication. Usually it's not because they promise to make more of an effort, but never actually do. What am I doing wrong here? They will make an effort in other areas of their life, just not for me.
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I completely agree and make it a point to communicate my intentions immediately.. The problem is that they would lie about theirs and a couple months into the 'relationship', I would start noticing that their actions didn't reflect what they had told me. Then I am guilted, put into a position where I am considered this unreasonable person for expecting consistency and recognizing their gas-lighting. I just find people to be very manipulative these days overall, and maybe it's not necessarily an internal issue anymore, but a morality issue.Guest wrote: ↑29 Jun 2021, 20:12I actually had this happen to me too, a couple times. In my case I think it's because I keep crushing on emotionally unavailable women, or women who'd just come out of a ltr and aren't at the same stage as me. It's unfortunate and frustrating and definitely something that tells us more about ourselves than about the people we date. I think it's important to be assertive with them and with yourself, to be communicative even if the other person isn't, and try to find out what's their deal asap so that you don't find yourself with someone who doesn't want the same as you.Guest wrote: ↑29 Jun 2021, 15:32I do love myself. The relationships initially start off as reciprocal, but overtime the person makes less and less of an effort to the point they make absolutely none. I end up leaving them once that happens, if it can't be resolved with communication. Usually it's not because they promise to make more of an effort, but never actually do. What am I doing wrong here? They will make an effort in other areas of their life, just not for me.
I just wondered if there was a way to avoid being in this situation again because it's draining and a waste of my time. Any time I recognize manipulative tactics in interactions, I immediately move on from the person but I'm having a hard time finding someone who seems receptive to a healthy relationship, and is in a place where they can sustain one. Any tips as to where I should start or what I should look out for?
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What was the name of the couple or show, where it was a reality (IIRC) and the was a plot twist that 2 girls got together. I remember the scene kind on a beach or something? and one of them returning? Its eating my brain for a couple of day nows.
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I think it's the Australian version of the Bachelor. Here's a link: https://www.glamour.com/story/two-bache ... reality-tvGuest wrote: ↑30 Jun 2021, 01:09What was the name of the couple or show, where it was a reality (IIRC) and the was a plot twist that 2 girls got together. I remember the scene kind on a beach or something? and one of them returning? Its eating my brain for a couple of day nows.
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i know which show youre talking about. It was called Orchid Clinic: The Waiting RoomGuest wrote: ↑30 Jun 2021, 01:09What was the name of the couple or show, where it was a reality (IIRC) and the was a plot twist that 2 girls got together. I remember the scene kind on a beach or something? and one of them returning? Its eating my brain for a couple of day nows.
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I have a date coming up but I'm suffering from a horrible acne breakout. Would it look bad to cancel because of it? I feel so fucking ugly.
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It depends. How much do you like your date?Guest wrote: ↑01 Jul 2021, 16:41I have a date coming up but I'm suffering from a horrible acne breakout. Would it look bad to cancel because of it? I feel so fucking ugly.
If you think she could be gf material, tell her the truth. And ask to postpone for another day when you’re both at your best.