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26 Jun 2021, 08:05
Am I being an asshole if I don’t want people to touch/use my things even though we live together? It goes from food I buy for myself, cleaning supplies, my personal shower supplies, etc to the point that I hide it so it isn’t touched. Do I have a warped sense of boundaries or do they?
it's natural to have boundaries, when i lived with roommates we discussed those boundaries at the beginning and it saved us a lot of trouble and misunderstanding in future

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#2732

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WhyO wrote:
26 Jun 2021, 16:12
Could someone link me articles (or other media) about "why" straight people should come to our prides? Why do we let them attend it? Is it about support? Because many of them are still homophobic and just go there to have fun like if it's a random party... Is there a thread here where this discussions already happen? Feel free to how me the way :) Thank you
There is a thread called Pride 2021.

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#2733

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Is there a thread about the tv show "the girlfriend experience?"

tia

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#2734

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Is working as a barista as draining as it appears to be? I've done it ocassionally at a friend's bar, and just now considering it as a job.

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#2735

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This woman and I talked for about 6 months last fall, and we went on 3 dates (we both had really crazy schedules at the time). We stopped seeing each other because it was hard to communicate and hang out because we were both so busy (in other words, there was no bad blood. The last date we went on she actually brought me roses).

I still follow her on instagram, and she still follows me. We both watch each other's stories, and she has a new job closer to where she lives. I'm kind of debating on hitting her up or just commenting on one of her stories, but it's been since probably December that we last spoke. How desperate and creepy does this all sound? I've never had something with someone where it didn't end in some terrible way, so I'm not sure if this is overstepping bounds.
I fail to see the creepy part in any of this.

However, I also wonder how it is that you're both too busy to communicate but still have time to post stories on Instagram.
Lol well now I am less busy (I graduated from grad school in December) and based on my social media stalking it seems like she started her new job in January which has a much shorter commute time for her. So that's why I have time now to post things every so often, and likewise for her. She doesn't post everyday and neither do I.

The whole "creepy" fear comes from the fact I dated a woman in the past that seriously creeped my out afterwards, so I guess I worry how it looks that me, a woman she hasn't talked to in 6 months, is randomly hitting her up out of the blue. The fact that it didn't end in a bad way is I guess why I am thinking of chatting with her again. I'm just not sure how it looks.
Well if you both thought there could have been something back then, why not? I think you're overthinking it.
I'll see if I can go for it.
QMTA: she still likes me!

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I fail to see the creepy part in any of this.

However, I also wonder how it is that you're both too busy to communicate but still have time to post stories on Instagram.
Lol well now I am less busy (I graduated from grad school in December) and based on my social media stalking it seems like she started her new job in January which has a much shorter commute time for her. So that's why I have time now to post things every so often, and likewise for her. She doesn't post everyday and neither do I.

The whole "creepy" fear comes from the fact I dated a woman in the past that seriously creeped my out afterwards, so I guess I worry how it looks that me, a woman she hasn't talked to in 6 months, is randomly hitting her up out of the blue. The fact that it didn't end in a bad way is I guess why I am thinking of chatting with her again. I'm just not sure how it looks.
Well if you both thought there could have been something back then, why not? I think you're overthinking it.
I'll see if I can go for it.
QMTA: she still likes me!
Good for you ^_^

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Is anyone else getting these errors today when browsing the forum without a VPN?


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27 Jun 2021, 22:01
Is anyone else getting these errors today when browsing the forum without a VPN?


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Yep. You may also have noticed the board is slower to load generally lately. There's more traffic at peak times than it can handle comfortably.

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#2739

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What is the name of the well known lesbian porn star who stars in strap on porn?

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27 Jun 2021, 22:01
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Lol
I just saw this and thought should I ask about this and here is your post. :lol:

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Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?

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28 Jun 2021, 08:03
Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
lying about your gender :nails:

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How do you prevent from having a crush on a woman you talk to frequently?

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28 Jun 2021, 15:18
How do you prevent from having a crush on a woman you talk to frequently?
If you had to ask this, you probably already have a crush on her.

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Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
Age. You can get a job but obviously not change your age?

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28 Jun 2021, 08:03
Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
IMO the latter, it may embarrassing to be the one unemployed between friends, family, or to a potential girlfriend, if you're like that a long time or often find yourself in such situation, you may think people think you're a lazyass or someone who mess up all the time in their jobs, also I guess no one with a shitty job likes to reveal it to others so it's understandable if they lie about it by being vague about it or say they've a better one

as for lie about age I think it's a humorous thing most of the time among middle age and above people whether they think that's the age how they look like or their mental age, it's not something I see doing myself as I get older but I don't mind people who do it if that makes them feel younger and better about themselves, but of course if you start a relationship you should disclose your actual age even if you don't like to bring it up

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28 Jun 2021, 15:31
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How do you prevent from having a crush on a woman you talk to frequently?
If you had to ask this, you probably already have a crush on her.
:blinkwide: I hope not.

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28 Jun 2021, 15:34
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28 Jun 2021, 08:03
Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
Age. You can get a job but obviously not change your age?
def job.

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I mean lying about your age is kinda weird. How would you get around that? It's pretty serious. Like on your birth certificate and id serious. I dont know how I'd take someone seriously if they shaved like 5 years off their actual birth date. It's very strange.

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28 Jun 2021, 08:03
Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
Hmmm both-- Eitherway you are still a liar and that's a deal breaker. :yawn:
How can someone start a relationship with someone who can't even be truthful with her age or job :nails:

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28 Jun 2021, 15:34
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28 Jun 2021, 08:03
Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
Age. You can get a job but obviously not change your age?
def job.
Can I ask why you think that?

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28 Jun 2021, 20:04
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28 Jun 2021, 08:03
Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
Hmmm both-- Eitherway you are still a liar and that's a deal breaker. :yawn:
How can someone start a relationship with someone who can't even be truthful with her age or job :nails:
What if it’s not to a person you want to date, but just to friends or people you meet? Which is worse lying about your age or having a job?

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28 Jun 2021, 20:20
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28 Jun 2021, 20:04
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Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
Hmmm both-- Eitherway you are still a liar and that's a deal breaker. :yawn:
How can someone start a relationship with someone who can't even be truthful with her age or job :nails:
What if it’s not to a person you want to date, but just to friends or people you meet? Which is worse lying about your age or having a job?
DA. Both are really bad. Why do you have to say your age or your job to someone who you want to be friends with or meet randomly? Don't say your age. As for your job, if you really need to, be vague. But never lie. It is just asking for trouble and an insincere relationship that is not built on mutual trust and respect.

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Also, with modern life being what it is, and with covid times being what they are, there are a lot of people who are doing unconventioal things or whatever. Find people to be around who are understanding, not people who are judgmental.

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Guest wrote:
28 Jun 2021, 21:52
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28 Jun 2021, 20:20
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28 Jun 2021, 20:04
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28 Jun 2021, 08:03
Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
Hmmm both-- Eitherway you are still a liar and that's a deal breaker. :yawn:
How can someone start a relationship with someone who can't even be truthful with her age or job :nails:
What if it’s not to a person you want to date, but just to friends or people you meet? Which is worse lying about your age or having a job?
DA. Both are really bad. Why do you have to say your age or your job to someone who you want to be friends with or meet randomly? Don't say your age. As for your job, if you really need to, be vague. But never lie. It is just asking for trouble and an insincere relationship that is not built on mutual trust and respect.
DA

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Yep, any relationship may it be platonic or friendship if not romantic should start with trust. If you're inauthentic from the start even with these petty stuff what makes you think you'd still be genuine and trustworthy of bigger issues in the long run. :yawn:

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Hi. Barista anon here. Nobody replied to my quesion but just came by to say that I'm gonna give it a chance. Wish me luck.

Bout the liars discussion going on, my two cents: I've had an ex lie to me about wanting one thing and then the next day act completely opposite to what she said the previous day. So stick to what people do rather than what they say. Always.

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How should I deal with antisocial introverts who refuse to speak to me? Ignoring them is not an option.
My pronouns are Cash/App and Venmo/me

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29 Jun 2021, 00:47
Hi. Barista anon here. Nobody replied to my quesion but just came by to say that I'm gonna give it a chance. Wish me luck.

Bout the liars discussion going on, my two cents: I've had an ex lie to me about wanting one thing and then the next day act completely opposite to what she said the previous day. So stick to what people do rather than what they say. Always.
I think it’s about as difficult as any other service job.

Are you going to a place like Starbucks or a local cafe type?

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29 Jun 2021, 00:47
Hi. Barista anon here. Nobody replied to my quesion but just came by to say that I'm gonna give it a chance. Wish me luck.
Sorry I didn't have an answer for you then, but absolutely, all the best anon!

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How do you prevent from having a crush on a woman you talk to frequently?
Why do you think you will develop a crush? And how frequently do you talk to her? Do you work together?

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How should I deal with antisocial introverts who refuse to speak to me? Ignoring them is not an option.
I think we need more context for this.

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How do I find something other than a one-sided relationship? Is there a trick? Someone who makes an effort to put themselves out there would be a great change.

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28 Jun 2021, 08:03
Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
Once a person lied about her age(not in a joking manner), there’s a high chance that she would also lie about other things like her job.

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29 Jun 2021, 04:51
How do I find something other than a one-sided relationship? Is there a trick? Someone who makes an effort to put themselves out there would be a great change.
Love yourself first and the rest will follow

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Why don't we have an "Ugly cakes" thread like we used to in the old forum?

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^Make it darling. :fun:

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29 Jun 2021, 12:33
Why don't we have an "Ugly cakes" thread like we used to in the old forum?
Why don't you start one? :lol:

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Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
Age. You can get a job but obviously not change your age?
DA According to a study, 90 per cent of women more likely to fib about age. Kerri Parker, 35, is a model and stunt double, from Norwich, Norfolk. She says: “I started modelling at 20 after I gave up a career training to be a doctor in the army medical corp," explained Kerri.“I was lucky enough to be offered work in Los Angeles and spent five years working there. “Now I work as a model and a stunt double all over the world.“ I tell bosses I'm 22 to get the best jobs - I'm 35” Many castings call for girls 25-or-under and I am 35.“Why should I be aged out simply because my passport says I am 35? I can still pass for a twenty-something. “I don’t see why I shouldn’t be considered simply because I have ‘aged out’ of that grouping. “So, instead of having to beg for casting at 35 I simply tell casting directors I’m 22. If that lie gets me through the door I don’t mind -
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Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
Once a person lied about her age(not in a joking manner), there’s a high chance that she would also lie about other things like her job.
People lie on resumes, lying about job experience and age are often interchangeable, if you want to get picked for the position. Tough market.

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Guest wrote:
28 Jun 2021, 15:34
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Which is worse, lying about your age or lying about your job/having a job?
Age. You can get a job but obviously not change your age?
DA According to a study, 90 per cent of women more likely to fib about age. Kerri Parker, 35, is a model and stunt double, from Norwich, Norfolk. She says: “I started modelling at 20 after I gave up a career training to be a doctor in the army medical corp," explained Kerri.“I was lucky enough to be offered work in Los Angeles and spent five years working there. “Now I work as a model and a stunt double all over the world.“ I tell bosses I'm 22 to get the best jobs - I'm 35” Many castings call for girls 25-or-under and I am 35.“Why should I be aged out simply because my passport says I am 35? I can still pass for a twenty-something. “I don’t see why I shouldn’t be considered simply because I have ‘aged out’ of that grouping. “So, instead of having to beg for casting at 35 I simply tell casting directors I’m 22. If that lie gets me through the door I don’t mind -
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Well, she just exposed herself. <_<

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How do I find something other than a one-sided relationship? Is there a trick? Someone who makes an effort to put themselves out there would be a great change.
Love yourself first and the rest will follow
I do love myself. The relationships initially start off as reciprocal, but overtime the person makes less and less of an effort to the point they make absolutely none. I end up leaving them once that happens, if it can't be resolved with communication. Usually it's not because they promise to make more of an effort, but never actually do. What am I doing wrong here? They will make an effort in other areas of their life, just not for me.

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29 Jun 2021, 08:18
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29 Jun 2021, 04:51
How do I find something other than a one-sided relationship? Is there a trick? Someone who makes an effort to put themselves out there would be a great change.
Love yourself first and the rest will follow
I do love myself. The relationships initially start off as reciprocal, but overtime the person makes less and less of an effort to the point they make absolutely none. I end up leaving them once that happens, if it can't be resolved with communication. Usually it's not because they promise to make more of an effort, but never actually do. What am I doing wrong here? They will make an effort in other areas of their life, just not for me.
I actually had this happen to me too, a couple times. In my case I think it's because I keep crushing on emotionally unavailable women, or women who'd just come out of a ltr and aren't at the same stage as me. It's unfortunate and frustrating and definitely something that tells us more about ourselves than about the people we date. I think it's important to be assertive with them and with yourself, to be communicative even if the other person isn't, and try to find out what's their deal asap so that you don't find yourself with someone who doesn't want the same as you.

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29 Jun 2021, 15:32
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29 Jun 2021, 08:18
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29 Jun 2021, 04:51
How do I find something other than a one-sided relationship? Is there a trick? Someone who makes an effort to put themselves out there would be a great change.
Love yourself first and the rest will follow
I do love myself. The relationships initially start off as reciprocal, but overtime the person makes less and less of an effort to the point they make absolutely none. I end up leaving them once that happens, if it can't be resolved with communication. Usually it's not because they promise to make more of an effort, but never actually do. What am I doing wrong here? They will make an effort in other areas of their life, just not for me.
I actually had this happen to me too, a couple times. In my case I think it's because I keep crushing on emotionally unavailable women, or women who'd just come out of a ltr and aren't at the same stage as me. It's unfortunate and frustrating and definitely something that tells us more about ourselves than about the people we date. I think it's important to be assertive with them and with yourself, to be communicative even if the other person isn't, and try to find out what's their deal asap so that you don't find yourself with someone who doesn't want the same as you.
I completely agree and make it a point to communicate my intentions immediately.. The problem is that they would lie about theirs and a couple months into the 'relationship', I would start noticing that their actions didn't reflect what they had told me. Then I am guilted, put into a position where I am considered this unreasonable person for expecting consistency and recognizing their gas-lighting. I just find people to be very manipulative these days overall, and maybe it's not necessarily an internal issue anymore, but a morality issue.
I just wondered if there was a way to avoid being in this situation again because it's draining and a waste of my time. Any time I recognize manipulative tactics in interactions, I immediately move on from the person but I'm having a hard time finding someone who seems receptive to a healthy relationship, and is in a place where they can sustain one. Any tips as to where I should start or what I should look out for?

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Why twitter thread has been deleted?

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Why was twitter thread deleted?

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What was the name of the couple or show, where it was a reality (IIRC) and the was a plot twist that 2 girls got together. I remember the scene kind on a beach or something? and one of them returning? Its eating my brain for a couple of day nows.

TIA

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Guest wrote:
30 Jun 2021, 01:09
What was the name of the couple or show, where it was a reality (IIRC) and the was a plot twist that 2 girls got together. I remember the scene kind on a beach or something? and one of them returning? Its eating my brain for a couple of day nows.

TIA
I think it's the Australian version of the Bachelor. Here's a link: https://www.glamour.com/story/two-bache ... reality-tv

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Guest wrote:
30 Jun 2021, 01:09
What was the name of the couple or show, where it was a reality (IIRC) and the was a plot twist that 2 girls got together. I remember the scene kind on a beach or something? and one of them returning? Its eating my brain for a couple of day nows.

TIA
i know which show youre talking about. It was called Orchid Clinic: The Waiting Room

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I have a date coming up but I'm suffering from a horrible acne breakout. Would it look bad to cancel because of it? I feel so fucking ugly.

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I have a date coming up but I'm suffering from a horrible acne breakout. Would it look bad to cancel because of it? I feel so fucking ugly.
It depends. How much do you like your date?

If you think she could be gf material, tell her the truth. And ask to postpone for another day when you’re both at your best.

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