Guest wrote: ↑09 Oct 2020, 12:16
Guest wrote: ↑09 Oct 2020, 10:37
Sentry wrote: ↑09 Oct 2020, 07:27
Women having sex = dirty. Bisexual must mean they have 2x more sex! Very dirty. While it is annoying when bisexuals use the cover of 'lesbian' it isn't strictly their fault. Men and their fetish-ing(?) of the word does not help.
Bisexuals needs to be a comfortable with using that term again instead of this word salad in internet culture.
Platinum Star.
Da. Bisexuality supposedly being seen as "slutty" or inherently unfaithful does seem to be a common reason for bisexuals to mislabel themselves as lesbians, but if you think about it for even a minute you notice their reasoning still doesn't
really make sense. The idea that bisexuality is viewed as MORE shameful or dirty than homosexuality and that therefore bisexuals must pretend to be homosexual to be treated better is absurd (most straights still think gay people only care about sex!) and doesn't hold up to reality, especially when lesbians are demeaned and shamed more than ever for not liking d--- thanks to trans activism -- and a lot of the people doing the demeaning and shaming are bisexual. The belief that bisexuality is more progressive and open-minded than homosexuality is
very prevalent in the bisexual community (e.g. "I love the person, not the genitals") so bisexual women complaining about being seen as "sluts" elicits no sympathy from me while their community disparages lesbians as sex-obsessed "pussy fetishists."
Interesting.
But why do many bisexual women still lied/pretend to be lesbians when there are stil so much stigma against homosexuality?
Damn bis truly are our enemy. We need to be more aggressive and shame/call them out more for their bullshit when they pretend to be lesbians especially when tried to get male attention.
It depends on their politics, mostly, but sometimes it's just about a selfish desire for validation.
1) Feminist bisexual women view lesbianism as politically pure because it involves only women, and bisexual feminists -- especially the ones who've had bad experiences with men -- idealize lesbian relationships as having a perfect, loving, generous dynamic that's free of the abuse and trauma that their heterosexual relationships had. The pioneers of radical feminism encouraged women to "choose to be lesbians" to fight the patriarchy ("political lesbianism") and recently this has had a surge in popularity and seeped into liberal feminism as well. Basically a lot of feminists nowadays believe that being a lesbian = being a better feminist.
2) Bisexual women who are neck deep in queer politics simply love men and hate lesbians. These are the types that support trans activism and agree with straight men that lesbians are evil and should "examine" their "genital preferences." Straight men have a corrective rape fetish that bisexual women love helping them roleplay, and bisexual women live for boosting men's egos so they enjoy taking part in their boyfriends' fantasies about "converting" a lesbian.
3) Some bisexual women have admitted that they call themselves lesbians because they're afraid lesbians will reject them for being bi. So in this case it's all about validation -- wanting a lesbian's attention. It's another motivation that makes little sense to me, because deceiving a lesbian will mean things ending badly when she finds out, and I don't know why bisexuals who are worried about lesbians not being into them don't just...you know, date other bisexual women...who can better relate to them.