by DazzlingNova » 13 Feb 2025, 18:59
My curiosity got the best of me so I tried to google it but all I got was a lot of porn videos and links to lack of sensation problem after giving birth and not much else that could serve this particular educational purpose. So for us newbies who, until yesterday, had no idea that vagina widening was a thing, I was wondering if you could shine some more light on that. For example, what's purpose of that, some women get off on that or it makes it easier afterwards to do other things or? Psychologically does it come down to marking a territory like men do with their virgin-obsession or dominating or degrading a partner? What are the consequences your friend suffered, like is the whole thing reversible after a while or not? Was she struggling mentally because she felt humiliated afterwards or was it due to suffering physical consequences? As I take it, it's a process and not a one-time thing? For the life of me, I can't wrap my head around why would anyone want to hate female body so much
I want to disclaimer this so if anyone is triggered/uncomfortable, I kindly ask you to read no further or make any unnecessary comments that doesn’t go along with what’s being discussed/asked, thank you. Please excuse any typos.
This post might get kinda long so I’ll spoiler most of it. Eventually my curiosity got the better of me too anon. I just didn’t understand why there were women who wanted to do that either, so one night (in that same chatroom) I decided to ask a woman (I’ll call her Diane so it doesn’t get confusing) who was into it (which wasn’t so easy).
what's purpose of that, some women get off on that or it makes it easier afterwards to do other things or?
For Diane she was fascinated by/got off on it. She said she had been to “special clubs in the kink world” (she’d been “practicing” kink for 6-7 years at that time) and seen a performance of a women getting her vagina widen which caught her interest. Seeing that was the most turned on she’d ever been in her life, so eventually she started learning/practicing on other women from some of those clubs, then herself (all of it was consensual and heavily discussed). Apparently the “wider” or “more gaped” her vagina got the more turned on/harder she orgasm. She went on to say there were people (predominately men) who would abuse the rules. There were women who only wanted to be stretched to certain widths. For example, the width of remotes, game controllers, computer mouses, a fist, hair brushes to name a few, but there would be men who would break the rules (sneakily of course) and stretch them beyond their limits. That’s why when she was widening her vagina or another woman’s (they would be FWBs or in a relationship) no men were ever involved/there. She stretched herself to the width of a “water bottle” because anything wider than that was too extreme for her taste but she had ex girlfriends who were into the extreme stuff. From my understanding the only thing that was easier to do were use more toys and increasing the amount of them that could fit inside at the same time.
Psychologically does it come down to marking a territory like men do with their virgin-obsession or dominating or degrading a partner?
From what Diane said, the majority of the male members would be “marking their territory” or “dominating” their partners. The others were a mixed bag of degrading their wives/gfs (whether those women were into it or not) and rule followers. The women were different. A sizable minority of them wanted to feel a connection, appreciated, friendship, and loved to an extent but because they were into vagina widening, “strictly vanilla” people wouldn’t be able to give them that. From that statement you already know what the majority of those women were into. Diane was looking for companionship/love/trust. (Her words) It made her feel more closer to her partner, and it was very intimate/fulfilling to feel/watch her girlfriend stretching her to her limits and orgasming. So I asked her why did she come to that chatroom instead of the ones that fit her taste. She told me they were all either filled with straight people, m/f couples looking for a woman, or gay/bi men (she had cut men out completely at some point and was only sleeping with/dating women exclusively). The few others that did have single/actual lesbians/bi women were all butches/studs looking for femmes and vice versa, but she only dated other femmes, so she decided to check out the “vanilla” chatrooms and see if maybe she could get a woman’s curiosity up enough to get in a relationship with her and continue the practice (she wasn’t going to insist/hint at her potential/future gf doing that to herself if she had no interest to do so).
What are the consequences your friend suffered, like is the whole thing reversible after a while or not? Was she struggling mentally because she felt humiliated afterwards or was it due to suffering physical consequences? As I take it, it's a process and not a one-time thing?
I’m not sure if it’s reversible or not, but I figure after a while if they don’t keep widening it could possibly get smaller. It was a mix. She felt humiliated because she gave in and didn’t continue to say no/other women being disgusted by the way it looked like how she did (before therapy). Hers did gradually get smaller (over time) but it was never the size it was (according to her) before her ex gf started. There was no physical damage to my knowledge (she did get some surgery to remove the excessive inner labia skin that she got from being stretched to what it looked like before). Everything still worked as normal except it was really wide/gaped. It took roughly a year give or take of them having sex 3-4 times maybe more everyday until she noticed a big change.
For the life of me, I can't wrap my head around why would anyone want to hate female body so much
For the women like Diane they don’t see it that way, which I feel make up the very smallest percentage. I think the majority of them hate themselves/bodies and want to make their “outside” look like a physical manifestation of their inside, so who better than to “nurture/enhance” those negative feelings/thoughts than misogynist and weird narcissist/master manipulators.
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My curiosity got the best of me so I tried to google it but all I got was a lot of porn videos and links to lack of sensation problem after giving birth and not much else that could serve this particular educational purpose. So for us newbies who, until yesterday, had no idea that vagina widening was a thing, I was wondering if you could shine some more light on that. For example, what's purpose of that, some women get off on that or it makes it easier afterwards to do other things or? Psychologically does it come down to marking a territory like men do with their virgin-obsession or dominating or degrading a partner? What are the consequences your friend suffered, like is the whole thing reversible after a while or not? Was she struggling mentally because she felt humiliated afterwards or was it due to suffering physical consequences? As I take it, it's a process and not a one-time thing? For the life of me, I can't wrap my head around why would anyone want to hate female body so much
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[b]I want to disclaimer this so if anyone is triggered/uncomfortable, I kindly ask you to read no further or make any unnecessary comments that doesn’t go along with what’s being discussed/asked, thank you. Please excuse any typos.[/b]
This post might get kinda long so I’ll spoiler most of it. Eventually my curiosity got the better of me too anon. I just didn’t understand why there were women who wanted to do that either, so one night (in that same chatroom) I decided to ask a woman (I’ll call her Diane so it doesn’t get confusing) who was into it (which wasn’t so easy).
[i][quote]what's purpose of that, some women get off on that or it makes it easier afterwards to do other things or?[/quote][/i]
[spoiler]For Diane she was fascinated by/got off on it. She said she had been to “special clubs in the kink world” (she’d been “practicing” kink for 6-7 years at that time) and seen a performance of a women getting her vagina widen which caught her interest. Seeing that was the most turned on she’d ever been in her life, so eventually she started learning/practicing on other women from some of those clubs, then herself (all of it was consensual and heavily discussed). Apparently the “wider” or “more gaped” her vagina got the more turned on/harder she orgasm. She went on to say there were people (predominately men) who would abuse the rules. There were women who only wanted to be stretched to certain widths. For example, the width of remotes, game controllers, computer mouses, a fist, hair brushes to name a few, but there would be men who would break the rules (sneakily of course) and stretch them beyond their limits. That’s why when she was widening her vagina or another woman’s (they would be FWBs or in a relationship) no men were ever involved/there. She stretched herself to the width of a “water bottle” because anything wider than that was too extreme for her taste but she had ex girlfriends who were into the extreme stuff. From my understanding the only thing that was easier to do were use more toys and increasing the amount of them that could fit inside at the same time.[/spoiler]
[i][quote]Psychologically does it come down to marking a territory like men do with their virgin-obsession or dominating or degrading a partner?[/quote][/i]
[spoiler]From what Diane said, the majority of the male members would be “marking their territory” or “dominating” their partners. The others were a mixed bag of degrading their wives/gfs (whether those women were into it or not) and rule followers. The women were different. A sizable minority of them wanted to feel a connection, appreciated, friendship, and loved to an extent but because they were into vagina widening, “strictly vanilla” people wouldn’t be able to give them that. From that statement you already know what the majority of those women were into. Diane was looking for companionship/love/trust. (Her words) It made her feel more closer to her partner, and it was very intimate/fulfilling to feel/watch her girlfriend stretching her to her limits and orgasming. So I asked her why did she come to that chatroom instead of the ones that fit her taste. She told me they were all either filled with straight people, m/f couples looking for a woman, or gay/bi men (she had cut men out completely at some point and was only sleeping with/dating women exclusively). The few others that did have single/actual lesbians/bi women were all butches/studs looking for femmes and vice versa, but she only dated other femmes, so she decided to check out the “vanilla” chatrooms and see if maybe she could get a woman’s curiosity up enough to get in a relationship with her and continue the practice (she wasn’t going to insist/hint at her potential/future gf doing that to herself if she had no interest to do so).[/spoiler]
[i][quote]What are the consequences your friend suffered, like is the whole thing reversible after a while or not? Was she struggling mentally because she felt humiliated afterwards or was it due to suffering physical consequences? As I take it, it's a process and not a one-time thing?[/quote][/i]
[spoiler]I’m not sure if it’s reversible or not, but I figure after a while if they don’t keep widening it could possibly get smaller. It was a mix. She felt humiliated because she gave in and didn’t continue to say no/other women being disgusted by the way it looked like how she did (before therapy). Hers did gradually get smaller (over time) but it was never the size it was (according to her) before her ex gf started. There was no physical damage to my knowledge (she did get some surgery to remove the excessive inner labia skin that she got from being stretched to what it looked like before). Everything still worked as normal except it was really wide/gaped. It took roughly a year give or take of them having sex 3-4 times maybe more everyday until she noticed a big change.[/spoiler]
[i][quote]For the life of me, I can't wrap my head around why would anyone want to hate female body so much[/quote][/i]
For the women like Diane they don’t see it that way, which I feel make up the very smallest percentage. I think the majority of them hate themselves/bodies and want to make their “outside” look like a physical manifestation of their inside, so who better than to “nurture/enhance” those negative feelings/thoughts than misogynist and weird narcissist/master manipulators.