The "What are you thinking about today?" thread

by **Guest** » Yesterday, 23:26

He can take MilkLove though

by **Guest** » Yesterday, 23:21

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04 Apr 2025, 07:33
Something random.

I'm sure everyone is concerned about the impact of Tr-mp's tariffs. If unchecked without a resolution, it will cause the global economy to tumble and even affect Americans wages, affordability and jobs.

It's also noticeable that Asia has been hit particularly hard by tariffs on the upper range. My guess is it is to strike back at China. A concern is if the economies do go into a recession, I'm pretty sure the Asian lesbian TV shows would be effected. Since nobody has as much money to spend on luxuries. It would be bad news for sure.

Then how am I going to sperg about Japanese GL

by **Guest** » 04 Apr 2025, 07:57

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It's funny, I haven't written any fanfic since like 10 years ago. But somehow, the most unlikely ship from such a small show, such small presence made me finished a 36k words of a fanfic after a whole weekend of stay up late till 4AM it's fun, I feel young again. Bless my ship. I don't think they last long but I still like it.
What's the shoooooow?
It's called Ici Tout Commence Got addict so fast for a presence so vain

Oh I've heard of it, glad for you anon!

by **Guest** » 04 Apr 2025, 07:33

Something random.

I'm sure everyone is concerned about the impact of Tr-mp's tariffs. If unchecked without a resolution, it will cause the global economy to tumble and even affect Americans wages, affordability and jobs.

It's also noticeable that Asia has been hit particularly hard by tariffs on the upper range. My guess is it is to strike back at China. A concern is if the economies do go into a recession, I'm pretty sure the Asian lesbian TV shows would be effected. Since nobody has as much money to spend on luxuries. It would be bad news for sure.

by **Guest** » 03 Apr 2025, 04:45

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02 Apr 2025, 23:00

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It's funny, I haven't written any fanfic since like 10 years ago. But somehow, the most unlikely ship from such a small show, such small presence made me finished a 36k words of a fanfic after a whole weekend of stay up late till 4AM it's fun, I feel young again. Bless my ship. I don't think they last long but I still like it.
What's the shoooooow?

It's called Ici Tout Commence

Got addict so fast for a presence so vain

by **Guest** » 02 Apr 2025, 23:00

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02 Apr 2025, 22:06
It's funny, I haven't written any fanfic since like 10 years ago. But somehow, the most unlikely ship from such a small show, such small presence made me finished a 36k words of a fanfic after a whole weekend of stay up late till 4AM it's fun, I feel young again. Bless my ship. I don't think they last long but I still like it.

What's the shoooooow?

by **Guest** » 02 Apr 2025, 22:40

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That sounds like a Hallmark movie script!
I mean, I really loved that Hallmark movie "Love in Portugal". Yeah it was a straight romance but the fact she was a chef who got to go work in Lisbon made me fantasize a little more.

I am tired of living in a big city. As soon as I meet a woman who will be my wife, it's time to live that nice calm life with my cafe, art, and wine lol.
DA
First of all, I gotta say I would so watch this movie!
Secondly, I totally understand you, anon. Life in a big city becomes exhausting after you reach a certain age. The time lost on crowds, queueing, traffic etc. is irretrievable.
I myself am in a process of looking for a small house outside the city to move into. I am so tired of constant noise and buzz and I can't wait to be able to have my coffee in silence and spend time tending my garden.

All I can tell you is don't wait for a wife to go after your dream. Often we postpone stuff we really want just until something else happens and then we wait for just another thing and it drags on forever. Go have your little cute cafe, a cute wife will come along Also if it's in Portugal, let us know where, I'm madly in love with the country
Same cafe anon here. You are too right! After I hit 30, something changed. I started to dislike the noisiness, the constantly busy streets, and the pace at work too.

Oh that sounds go amazing! It will be so healing for you to be able to have that peace, that privacy and a garden. I really hope you find exactly the home you are looking for.

You are right. Love can find us anywhere especially in LGBT friendly locations. Maybe it's just a fear of settling in somewhere new. I am in the US now, but want to move to either Spain, Portugal or France. I speak Spanish pretty fluently (mother's side is from Latin America) and enjoyed my last holiday to Seville. Living there and having a cafe or a small hotel + winery would be a dream come true. Just have to be careful not to be a typical "expat" because they aren't too fond of certain types of tourists right now.

I love Portugal too! The Algarve is gorgeous and the people are too kind, but was very hot in the summer when I visited (with friends). Which part of the country do you like most?

By the way, I was slightly off the name of the film. It's called a "A Pinch of Portugal". It's such a cute little movie! Here is the preview for it if you are interested in watching it:

Oh yes, I'm absolutely in love with Portugal! I think I've seen the majority of its regions, from north to south. Algarve was gorgeous with its sunsets, but locals told me that in summer it tends to get overcrowded (I was visiting in spring when there weren't so many tourists yet). Porto has its charm (and no, it wasn't all the wine I had

) but like Portuguese anon from above said, the weather was really bad. It's not that it was raining, it was soaking right to the bone. So if I had to pick one place, I'd say the Lisboa region was my favorite (Cabo da Roca was simply breathtaking and Lisbon is to be lost in and never be found). Also I saw some cute ladies with a smile to die for there, so you might want to reconsider your idea of already finding a wife before moving to Portugal, just saying

Spain is nice but they really have high unemployment rates. Most expats living in Spain work remotely (for high paying jobs, which is another reason why they are so frowned upon). If you speak Spanish, you shouldn't have any problems fitting in though. I used to be an expat in Spain and they have a bad rap because they don't actually try to fit in or respect the local culture. Learning a language would be a nice start to show some appreciation, especially after a couple of years. Here are three things crucial for survival there:
1. stay away from Seville in summer. By all means! I mean it!

2. never say that paella is just rice. In fact, don't even put rice in the same sentence with paella
3. always go for a kiss. Even if it's your boss, if you see them for the first time in your life or if you'll never see them again, don't ever shake hands. Grab and kiss!

There, if you decide to move to Spain, come here for more survival tips, I'll be at your service. I've made enough cobras in my life when meeting people so I've learned a thing or two how not to embarrass yourself

I'm definitely rooting for you, whether it be Spain, Portugal or France. Slowing down a bit and contemplating a change in life is sign of maturity and bravery. I like to say I didn't get old as I hit 30, I upgraded and the new me 2.0 doesn't have time to waste waiting in a car for a red light to turn green

by **Guest** » 02 Apr 2025, 22:06

It's funny, I haven't written any fanfic since like 10 years ago. But somehow, the most unlikely ship from such a small show, such small presence made me finished a 36k words of a fanfic after a whole weekend of stay up late till 4AM

it's fun, I feel young again. Bless my ship. I don't think they last long but I still like it.

by **Guest** » 02 Apr 2025, 19:17

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That sounds like a Hallmark movie script!
I mean, I really loved that Hallmark movie "Love in Portugal". Yeah it was a straight romance but the fact she was a chef who got to go work in Lisbon made me fantasize a little more.

I am tired of living in a big city. As soon as I meet a woman who will be my wife, it's time to live that nice calm life with my cafe, art, and wine lol.
DA
First of all, I gotta say I would so watch this movie!
Secondly, I totally understand you, anon. Life in a big city becomes exhausting after you reach a certain age. The time lost on crowds, queueing, traffic etc. is irretrievable.
I myself am in a process of looking for a small house outside the city to move into. I am so tired of constant noise and buzz and I can't wait to be able to have my coffee in silence and spend time tending my garden.

All I can tell you is don't wait for a wife to go after your dream. Often we postpone stuff we really want just until something else happens and then we wait for just another thing and it drags on forever. Go have your little cute cafe, a cute wife will come along Also if it's in Portugal, let us know where, I'm madly in love with the country
Same cafe anon here. You are too right! After I hit 30, something changed. I started to dislike the noisiness, the constantly busy streets, and the pace at work too.

Oh that sounds go amazing! It will be so healing for you to be able to have that peace, that privacy and a garden. I really hope you find exactly the home you are looking for.

You are right. Love can find us anywhere especially in LGBT friendly locations. Maybe it's just a fear of settling in somewhere new. I am in the US now, but want to move to either Spain, Portugal or France. I speak Spanish pretty fluently (mother's side is from Latin America) and enjoyed my last holiday to Seville. Living there and having a cafe or a small hotel + winery would be a dream come true. Just have to be careful not to be a typical "expat" because they aren't too fond of certain types of tourists right now.

I love Portugal too! The Algarve is gorgeous and the people are too kind, but was very hot in the summer when I visited (with friends). Which part of the country do you like most?

By the way, I was slightly off the name of the film. It's called a "A Pinch of Portugal". It's such a cute little movie! Here is the preview for it if you are interested in watching it:

I was the one who said your wish sounded like a Hallmark movie script and it's funny you mentioned that movie because I'm precisely from Portugal! I guess real life Hallmark coicidences really do happen!

(Btw, about the movie, I could tell right away that the Portuguese guy was not trustworthy by the way he greeted her when they met. You do not greet people with two kisses in a business setting, much less when no one is even introducing you to each other.)

If you are into wine, the best wineries are actually in the North of the country (in the Porto and Douro region), but the weather there is not as nice (it rains more and it's darker than in Lisbon and in the south - and yes, sometimes in the south it is very hot during summer).

I hope your wish for a peaceful life outside of the urban jungle comes true. And who knows if your wife to be has already made that change and is expecting you in the destination?

by **Guest** » 02 Apr 2025, 13:03

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How the heck to transition from a corporate career to opening a cafe and vineyard in a seaside town.
That sounds like a Hallmark movie script!
I mean, I really loved that Hallmark movie "Love in Portugal". Yeah it was a straight romance but the fact she was a chef who got to go work in Lisbon made me fantasize a little more.

I am tired of living in a big city. As soon as I meet a woman who will be my wife, it's time to live that nice calm life with my cafe, art, and wine lol.
DA
First of all, I gotta say I would so watch this movie!
Secondly, I totally understand you, anon. Life in a big city becomes exhausting after you reach a certain age. The time lost on crowds, queueing, traffic etc. is irretrievable.
I myself am in a process of looking for a small house outside the city to move into. I am so tired of constant noise and buzz and I can't wait to be able to have my coffee in silence and spend time tending my garden.

All I can tell you is don't wait for a wife to go after your dream. Often we postpone stuff we really want just until something else happens and then we wait for just another thing and it drags on forever. Go have your little cute cafe, a cute wife will come along Also if it's in Portugal, let us know where, I'm madly in love with the country

Same cafe anon here. You are too right! After I hit 30, something changed. I started to dislike the noisiness, the constantly busy streets, and the pace at work too.

Oh that sounds go amazing! It will be so healing for you to be able to have that peace, that privacy and a garden. I really hope you find exactly the home you are looking for.

You are right. Love can find us anywhere especially in LGBT friendly locations. Maybe it's just a fear of settling in somewhere new. I am in the US now, but want to move to either Spain, Portugal or France. I speak Spanish pretty fluently (mother's side is from Latin America) and enjoyed my last holiday to Seville. Living there and having a cafe or a small hotel + winery would be a dream come true. Just have to be careful not to be a typical "expat" because they aren't too fond of certain types of tourists right now.

I love Portugal too! The Algarve is gorgeous and the people are too kind, but was very hot in the summer when I visited (with friends). Which part of the country do you like most?

By the way, I was slightly off the name of the film. It's called a "A Pinch of Portugal". It's such a cute little movie! Here is the preview for it if you are interested in watching it:

by **Guest** » 02 Apr 2025, 09:07

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01 Apr 2025, 23:34

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How the heck to transition from a corporate career to opening a cafe and vineyard in a seaside town.
That sounds like a Hallmark movie script!
I mean, I really loved that Hallmark movie "Love in Portugal". Yeah it was a straight romance but the fact she was a chef who got to go work in Lisbon made me fantasize a little more.

I am tired of living in a big city. As soon as I meet a woman who will be my wife, it's time to live that nice calm life with my cafe, art, and wine lol.

DA
First of all, I gotta say I would so watch this movie!

Secondly, I totally understand you, anon. Life in a big city becomes exhausting after you reach a certain age. The time lost on crowds, queueing, traffic etc. is irretrievable.
I myself am in a process of looking for a small house otside the city to move into. I am so tired of constant noise and buzz and I can't wait to be able to have my coffee in silence and spend time tending my garden.

All I can tell you is don't wait for a wife to go after your dream. Often we postpone stuff we really want just until something else happens and then we wait for just another thing and it drags on forever. Go have your little cute cafe, a cute wife will come along

Also if it's in Portugal, let us know where, I'm madly in love with the country

by **Guest** » 02 Apr 2025, 00:07

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01 Apr 2025, 23:34

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01 Apr 2025, 23:30
How the heck to transition from a corporate career to opening a cafe and vineyard in a seaside town.
That sounds like a Hallmark movie script!

I mean, I really loved that Hallmark movie "Love in Portugal". Yeah it was a straight romance but the fact she was a chef who got to go work in Lisbon made me fantasize a little more.

I am tired of living in a big city. As soon as I meet a woman who will be my wife, it's time to live that nice calm life with my cafe, art, and wine lol.

by **Guest** » 01 Apr 2025, 23:44

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What kind of music do you like?
everything from quirky indie rock, to the top 10 charting girl pop hits of today, to the dregs of rap/hip hop! versatile. I just want something bc I listen to my same playlist over and over… and often overlook entire albums and just discover the most popular songs from an artist.
Maybe you would like this

Interestinggg!! Wasn’t sure what to expect with the start but that was a p groovy song. Good stuff. Thanks for the rec!

At one point, that song was on repeat.

You're welcome

!!

by **Guest** » 01 Apr 2025, 23:34

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How the heck to transition from a corporate career to opening a cafe and vineyard in a seaside town.

That sounds like a Hallmark movie script!

by **Guest** » 01 Apr 2025, 23:30

How the heck to transition from a corporate career to opening a cafe and vineyard in a seaside town.

by **Guest** » 01 Apr 2025, 23:27

That maybe my country will establish compulsory military service for both sexes in the next months.

by **Guest** » 01 Apr 2025, 18:03

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somebody rec me an album to listen to.
What kind of music do you like?
everything from quirky indie rock, to the top 10 charting girl pop hits of today, to the dregs of rap/hip hop! versatile. I just want something bc I listen to my same playlist over and over… and often overlook entire albums and just discover the most popular songs from an artist.
Maybe you would like this

Interestinggg!! Wasn’t sure what to expect with the start but that was a p groovy song. Good stuff. Thanks for the rec!

by **Guest** » 01 Apr 2025, 13:20

How to win the lottery? Then I will freaking retired early

by **DazzlingNova** » 01 Apr 2025, 01:39

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Da
Does this taking it slowly work with people? Because with the instant culture now, I feel like no one has patience to just wait and go one step at a time.
I, for instance, live in a very homophonic country and since I'm not openly out to everyone, I don't really go to dating apps. I wouldn't be able to post my pic there, therefore I think it kinda loses its point, people would either ignore me or just think I'm some weirdo.
I would be okay to talk to someone with no pics as well, to start from there and see where it goes. If it develops further, yeah, we can video call, meet for a drink or whatever. That's how it worked back in the day. Once I remember a girl was 100% sure I was some freak but she liked talking to me and also wanted to keep talking to me just so she could expose me. In the end we had a video call and she was like hey, you're actually cute. We ended up together for three years lol.
The whole instant consumer culture is really limiting for some who can't just put themselves out on the market and display everything all at once.
I sure do hope you still come across reasonable people and have more success, anon. The ones who still value getting closer to someone gradually and getting to know one's very core before swiping left (or right) There lies the magic in discovering depths of people. If they have depths, of course

Unfortunately no. The instant culture is so dominant currently that I feel like a fish out of water and disconnected from the majority of people. You’re absolutely right no one has hardly any patience anymore. When you’re on the dating sites/apps it goes a little something similar (not exactly) to this:

Day One: Very strong mutual interest/talk for maybe 2-4 hours, exchange socials/phone numbers.
Day Two: Text off/on when they have some free time throughout their day.
Day Three: Video call and setup their first date.
Day Four: They weren’t feeling each other as much as they thought, so they stop talking and it’s rinse and repeat.

Everything you described is my thought mentality/speed and what I feel comfortable with. It’s a shame that’s a “back in the day thing,” which makes me feel even more isolated while looking around here/there for someone special. I met a girl (she was from Bahrain on a penpal site) in a similar situation as you back in my 20s. She didn’t have any pictures up and neither did I, but we talked and found one another quite interesting. Eventually we moved to messenger and talked almost daily for oh gosh I think a year or slightly over (we were both lesbians surprisingly, and about 8 months in we both started to form feelings for each other). One day (at the 1 year 3 month mark) she said she wanted to video chat with me. At the time I only had pictures and a microphone, which she said was fine. When she saw me she thought I was cute and instantly attracted to me and when I saw her, she was so gorgeous, with the longest hair I'd ever seen (she grew her hair calf length so she could donate it to make wigs for cancer patients) and I too felt immediate attraction. The only thing that stopped us from pursuing anything was the fact she had a girlfriend (a controlling manipulator) who she had been trying to break up with (so she could leave her country and come to the US on a student visa/work program) long before she met me.

Indeed, you’re right again. Everybody is not in a position/nor want to put themselves out there for the whole world to see, and when you let that be known, people start to side eye with unfounded judgments that they have placed upon you, not based on your behaviors and their interactions with you etc., and think you have some kind of mental illness or you’re a creeper. Thank you anon

, but at this rate, I think all the women who have a mentality like mine are already taken/interested in someone else. It’s a tough pill to swallow but gradualism, patience, understanding, and reasonableness don’t mix in this current insta-dating environment. I like the way you phrased that, wanting to slowly get to know/value the depth/core of somebody, I strongly feel that’s how I am. I agree, it is magic if they have it!

by **Guest** » 31 Mar 2025, 23:08

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somebody rec me an album to listen to.
What kind of music do you like?
everything from quirky indie rock, to the top 10 charting girl pop hits of today, to the dregs of rap/hip hop! versatile. I just want something bc I listen to my same playlist over and over… and often overlook entire albums and just discover the most popular songs from an artist.

Maybe you would like this

by **Guest** » 31 Mar 2025, 23:02

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How are you all relating to one another with a sense of safety if hacking and online harassment is rampant?

I am so mistrusting of everyone online now, especially regarding online dating which was imperative for lesbians with no community.
Hmm, well I’m a firm believer in laws of attraction because that’s how I was raised. If you think you’re only going to meet mentally unstable people and shysters online, then that’s what you’re going to be inviting to yourself more times than not. I tend to be a pretty nice, open, and friendly person, so most times those are the same kind of people that I attract. Of course people who aren’t like that can gravitate towards you as well, but I see that as the universe’s way of sending us those types so we don’t forget that there are people out there who don’t have our best interest at heart.

I tend to go on a person by person bases because I don’t know their situation/living arrangements. I can have a pretty good gut intuition, but it isn’t perfect lol. Red flag behavior or an uneasiness feeling will always make itself known if the person isn’t being as up front about things as you are. Unfortunately most people don’t listen to those ques or bring their qualms up with the person they are talking with, and that’s how they get themselves into tough/bad binds. With the way my life is currently, voice communication is my only option for example, so that’s what I do when I eventually get comfortable enough with someone and them with me. Other things (pictures, videos, etc.) will come up much later depending on the speed you both want to take, so I just don’t worry about any of that until it’s time to cross that bridge. Trust and bonds grow naturally and aren’t forced or love bombed, so I feel if a person has negative intentions and you are knowingly/unknowingly not falling for their schemes/tactics they’ll get bored and leave you alone (most times).

Da
Does this taking it slowly work with people? Because with the instant culture now, I feel like no one has patience to just wait and go one step at a time.
I, for instance, live in a very homophonic country and since I'm not openly out to everyone, I don't really go to dating apps. I wouldn't be able to post my pic there, therefore I think it kinda loses its point, people would either ignore me or just think I'm some weirdo.
I would be okay to talk to someone with no pics as well, to start from there and see where it goes. If it develops further, yeah, we can video call, meet for a drink or whatever. That's how it worked back in the day. Once I remember a girl was 100% sure I was some freak but she liked talking to me and also wanted to keep talking to me just so she could expose me. In the end we had a video call and she was like hey, you're actually cute. We ended up together for three years lol.
The whole instant consumer culture is really limiting for some who can't just put themselves out on the market and display everything all at once.
I sure do hope you still come across reasonable people and have more success, anon. The ones who still value getting closer to someone gradually and getting to know one's very core before swiping left (or right)

There lies the magic in discovering depths of people. If they have depths, of course

by **Guest** » 31 Mar 2025, 22:43

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31 Mar 2025, 19:59

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31 Mar 2025, 18:33

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somebody rec me an album to listen to.
What kind of music do you like?
everything from quirky indie rock, to the top 10 charting girl pop hits of today, to the dregs of rap/hip hop! versatile. I just want something bc I listen to my same playlist over and over… and often overlook entire albums and just discover the most popular songs from an artist.

Try [Ozma - Spending time on the borderline] and [Blue Oyster Cult - Fire of unknown origin]

by **Guest** » 31 Mar 2025, 19:59

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31 Mar 2025, 18:33

Guest wrote: ↑
31 Mar 2025, 18:24
somebody rec me an album to listen to.
What kind of music do you like?

everything from quirky indie rock, to the top 10 charting girl pop hits of today, to the dregs of rap/hip hop! versatile. I just want something bc I listen to my same playlist over and over… and often overlook entire albums and just discover the most popular songs from an artist.

by **Guest** » 31 Mar 2025, 18:33

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31 Mar 2025, 18:24
somebody rec me an album to listen to.

What kind of music do you like?

by **Guest** » 31 Mar 2025, 18:24

somebody rec me an album to listen to.

by **Guest** » 31 Mar 2025, 13:06

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The housing market, man. The fcking housing market.

by **Guest** » 31 Mar 2025, 12:59

The housing market, man. The fcking housing market.

by **DazzlingNova** » 30 Mar 2025, 22:27

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30 Mar 2025, 06:40
How are you all relating to one another with a sense of safety if hacking and online harassment is rampant?

I am so mistrusting of everyone online now, especially regarding online dating which was imperative for lesbians with no community.

Hmm, well I’m a firm believer in laws of attraction because that’s how I was raised. If you think you’re only going to meet mentally unstable people and shysters online, then that’s what you’re going to be inviting to yourself more times than not. I tend to be a pretty nice, open, and friendly person, so most times those are the same kind of people that I attract. Of course people who aren’t like that can gravitate towards you as well, but I see that as the universe’s way of sending us those types so we don’t forget that there are people out there who don’t have our best interest at heart.

I tend to go on a person by person bases because I don’t know their situation/living arrangements. I can have a pretty good gut intuition, but it isn’t perfect lol. Red flag behavior or an uneasiness feeling will always make itself known if the person isn’t being as up front about things as you are. Unfortunately most people don’t listen to those ques or bring their qualms up with the person they are talking with, and that’s how they get themselves into tough/bad binds. With the way my life is currently, voice communication is my only option for example, so that’s what I do when I eventually get comfortable enough with someone and them with me. Other things (pictures, videos, etc.) will come up much later depending on the speed you both want to take, so I just don’t worry about any of that until it’s time to cross that bridge. Trust and bonds grow naturally and aren’t forced or love bombed, so I feel if a person has negative intentions and you are knowingly/unknowingly not falling for their schemes/tactics they’ll get bored and leave you alone (most times).

by **Guest** » 30 Mar 2025, 11:47

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How are you all relating to one another with a sense of safety if hacking and online harassment is rampant?

I am so mistrusting of everyone online now, especially regarding online dating which was imperative for lesbians with no community.

It's strange how you meet people online, the silliest little thing can make two people connect with each other.
Guess you find common interests, talk about them and gradually tell more and more about yourself. Little things.
Then you exchange some pictures, some videos. Eventually numbers.
You call, videocall and eventually meet up irl.

It's good to be careful but when you approach things gradually you should be fine.

Things like
'I have cancer and need money for my surgery'
'I'm Angelina Jolie and I'm lonely.'
I can't videocall because my camera is broken'

Etc
Etc

Are obviously red flags.

Never give personal info until you're absolutely sure about the other person.
Just use common sense and you'll be fine.

by **Guest** » 30 Mar 2025, 10:25

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by **Guest** » 30 Mar 2025, 06:40

How are you all relating to one another with a sense of safety if hacking and online harassment is rampant?

I am so mistrusting of everyone online now, especially regarding online dating which was imperative for lesbians with no community.

by **Guest** » 29 Mar 2025, 05:09

by **Guest** » 27 Mar 2025, 23:26

And yet you’re still here

by **Guest** » 27 Mar 2025, 16:21

I’m thinking about you less and less. Finally. You really made the biggest mistake of your life.

I’ve been chatting to this woman and she asked me to go out on a date today so now I’m looking at things to do with her. I’m actually looking forward to this one.

by **Guest** » 27 Mar 2025, 14:30

I cut my grass today and I feel pretty damn good about it.

by **Guest** » 24 Mar 2025, 19:44

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24 Mar 2025, 17:53
I thought I liked someone and rlly wanted to hang out with them, talk, etc as much as we possibly could… but now that I’m doing that I feel so much less interested suddenly? It’s like a switch was flipped and I’m just over them now. I can’t tell if it’s the thing where you only want something when it’s unobtainable but when you actually can get it, the appeal is gone… or what. Idk.

Or maybe you're getting to know them and realizing it's not all it's cracked up to be. I had it happen to me once. I was really interested in this girl and when we started dating, I realized I was annoyed by her. She wouldn't stop calling but the more she called, the less interested I was, like all the magic was gone. It wasn't about getting something I wanted which made it less appealing but the fact I didn't like her personality when I got to know her better.

by **Guest** » 24 Mar 2025, 17:53

I thought I liked someone and rlly wanted to hang out with them, talk, etc as much as we possibly could… but now that I’m doing that I feel so much less interested suddenly? It’s like a switch was flipped and I’m just over them now. I can’t tell if it’s the thing where you only want something when it’s unobtainable but when you actually can get it, the appeal is gone… or what. Idk.

by **Guest** » 23 Mar 2025, 23:16

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Off work for a week

Tomorrow

by **Guest** » 21 Mar 2025, 09:19

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I've finally FINALLY kicked my Twitter habit. It took 2 years but I've finally deactivated long enough where I can't reactivate my old account.
That's a huge deal, really well done. Do you have any tips? I always get FOMO.
Thank you! It was tough, but I hate Elon more than I love Twitter. I deleted the app and removed the login info from my phone. The password wasn't something I could easily remember. So I had to go through steps to figure it out and get it back on my phone. Usually, that was enough to stop the urge. I frequently go to the website even now but usually the login screen is enough to stop me from logging in and forcing me to do literally anything else.

DA, but I started shutting the app down whenever there was something on my feed i *really* didn't wanna see. At first it was just out of disgust, but then I noticed it actually seemed to show less or whatever it was, so now I do it all the time.
As a bonus, some days I only spend a few minutes on twitter now.

by **Guest** » 21 Mar 2025, 01:33

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I've finally FINALLY kicked my Twitter habit. It took 2 years but I've finally deactivated long enough where I can't reactivate my old account.
That's a huge deal, really well done. Do you have any tips? I always get FOMO.

Thank you! It was tough, but I hate Elon more than I love Twitter. I deleted the app and removed the login info from my phone. The password wasn't something I could easily remember. So I had to go through steps to figure it out and get it back on my phone. Usually, that was enough to stop the urge. I frequently go to the website even now but usually the login screen is enough to stop me from logging in and forcing me to do literally anything else.

by **Guest** » 21 Mar 2025, 01:08

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Ladies I need your help.

There is this woman i have feelings for. She works in the same place as I do and I am wondering if I should confess my feelings or keep wondering and regretting for the rest of my life however long I live not telling her how I feel. Imagine she leaves to work somewhere else and I never tell her how I feel? Then I never see her again. Even if it’s justa a friendship I don’t want to lose her presence in my life. What should I do? I also don’t want to make things uncomfortable for her. Please give me advice.

Is it feelings or just a crush? cause work place crushes can be delusional. She has an entire life outside work, if you do not know her that well or spend time with her outside of work then no, do not confess anything.

by **Guest** » 21 Mar 2025, 00:04

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I've finally FINALLY kicked my Twitter habit. It took 2 years but I've finally deactivated long enough where I can't reactivate my old account.

I deactivated a month or so ago. There really is no replacement for it, especially since most of the people I follow didn't really move over to Threads or Bluesky. All of the big stuff will get reposted or screenshot, but I do miss hearing some of the other people I followed. It's good to be rid of it though

by **Guest** » 20 Mar 2025, 23:52

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I've finally FINALLY kicked my Twitter habit. It took 2 years but I've finally deactivated long enough where I can't reactivate my old account.

Awesome! I keep reading Twitter/X is toxic as hell.

by **Guest** » 20 Mar 2025, 23:28

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20 Mar 2025, 06:04
I've finally FINALLY kicked my Twitter habit. It took 2 years but I've finally deactivated long enough where I can't reactivate my old account.

That's a huge deal, really well done. Do you have any tips? I always get FOMO.

by **Guest** » 20 Mar 2025, 06:04

I've finally FINALLY kicked my Twitter habit. It took 2 years but I've finally deactivated long enough where I can't reactivate my old account.

by **Guest** » 18 Mar 2025, 13:56

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Ladies I need your help.

There is this woman i have feelings for. She works in the same place as I do and I am wondering if I should confess my feelings or keep wondering and regretting for the rest of my life however long I live not telling her how I feel. Imagine she leaves to work somewhere else and I never tell her how I feel? Then I never see her again. Even if it’s justa a friendship I don’t want to lose her presence in my life. What should I do? I also don’t want to make things uncomfortable for her. Please give me advice.

Do you spend time with eachother outside of work? Do you know if she’s in to women? Is she single? If the answer to those questions is “no” then absolutely not. Also, workplaces are not ideal to have any type of relationship that isn’t a work relationship.

by **Guest** » 18 Mar 2025, 13:25

Maybe you can start by asking to have lunch together?

Just to not throw the 'I have feelings for you' in her face directly

by **Guest** » 18 Mar 2025, 10:24

I also keep bumping into her. it’s like god or the universe wants me to tell her something. Whatever that something is… it’s like an unfinished things I need to do and I keep getting opportunities but I never know how to do it.

by **Guest** » 18 Mar 2025, 10:21

Ladies I need your help.

There is this woman i have feelings for. She works in the same place as I do and I am wondering if I should confess my feelings or keep wondering and regretting for the rest of my life however long I live not telling her how I feel. Imagine she leaves to work somewhere else and I never tell her how I feel? Then I never see her again. Even if it’s justa a friendship I don’t want to lose her presence in my life. What should I do? I also don’t want to make things uncomfortable for her. Please give me advice.

by **DazzlingNova** » 16 Mar 2025, 18:33

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To the anon who went swimming last weekend,

I was thinking about you just now and I was wondering will this upcoming weekend be similar to your previous one, or nothing much is happening?
Hello DN! Thank you for checking in. This weekend has been more swimming with my kid (the best part of my week!) doing our taxes, more laundry, discovered a new wine yesterday. Maybe not the most exciting for a lot ppl, but given the state of my world, I’m grateful for these moments.

What about yourself?

Hello, and you're welcome anon! Ahhh I see, I see! I remember when I had one of those inflatable pools when I was around 3 years old, and I loved it when my mom would put water in it when it was hot, and we'd have so much fun. I bet that's also the best part of the week for your kid too

Oh really. I'm completely clueless when it comes to wine lol, what's the name of the one you discovered? Did you like the taste/smell (that's what the wine tasters always say hehe)? That's true, but I've always found the small things to be the most interesting. Oooh I most definitely understand that.

I'm coming along so-so. Some recent days have been slightly more tolerable than the majority. Thank you for asking. It rained a lot where I live yesterday and there's a nip in the air today and for tomorrow before it starts to warm back up again. My weekend was like my previous one, the only exception is I seen some birds through the window that I don't typically see around here. I hope you have a good upcoming week with some nice little surprises along the way to help make it a wonderful one

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